Saving Your Marriage: Why did you get married?

Before we go to the subject of saving your marriage, one of the most basic questions that should be asked of any couple is why they got married in the first place. There had to be a reason, right? Was it love? Was it arranged? Was it based purely on physical attraction (and we are not talking about physical chemistry between bodies here, we are talking about attraction to the material physical things)? Was it based purely on a habit that you could no longer break because of what others may say? Was it based purely on sexual attraction? Was it based on an unexpected pregnancy?



There are so many other questions, but these are what first come to mind when someone is asking for help in trying to save a marriage. There are also times when it is only one half of the couple who thinks that they need to fix things even if there is nothing to fix in the first place.

When thinking about problems going in a marriage, one must always ask the questions on why it was committed to in the first place. Because, unfortunately for the insecure and immature, marriage is a commitment and is not something that you can just jump into and say you want it undone because you made a mistake. No matter what you reason out, a marriage is a contract that was agreed upon by both parties and validated in the face of the church and the law. Marriage is not just a piece of contract; it is a part of life.
If you feel that you need to save your marriage, these questions should be first answered. And if the answers are positive then it is worth the effort, but if the questions all point to a negative start, then unfortunately, the end may be nearer than you think, for a marriage based on the physical and stupid actions of the immature was not a reason to get married in the first place. There is nothing to save for there is nothing positive to base its saving on.

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