Saving Your Marriage: Is It Time to Get Out?

A lot of marriages are worth saving, but when it is a marriage that is abusive, then it is about time to consider that instead of thinking of ways to saving your marriage, that it is time to get out.
If there are children involved, the children get abused all the same, even if it is just the wife or the husband who gets the physical abuses. The children get traumatized over what they see the other parent is doing to the other and it is a trauma that can never be forgotten. Worse, the children of physically abused parents end up as physical abusers themselves in a lot of cases. Not because they want to or were forced to, but because they were brought up that way and know no other way.

Physical abuse is one inexcusable act of violence to any spouse. A wife or husband who thinks that the abusive spouse is only being expressive is actually acting in denial and fear, fear that if they leave the relationship they will not have another loving one. The brain washing of abusers run deeply and it is a sorry fact that a lot of spouses actually defend their abusive spouses.
Men and women of abusive marriages are broken not only physically but emotionally and mentally. They could not learn to cope with any other type of relationship even if they try. And that is the actual tragedy. More and more people who get out of an abusive relationship only fall into another that is also abusive.
Health care workers, policemen and counselors all see the damage of a physically abusive relationship and they encourage the spouse to get out before it is too late. No matter what others say who want the marriage to stay together despite the abuse does not good to the abused spouse.
If you are in an abusive relationship, get out. There is no saving what cannot be saved. And no, the abusive partner will never change.

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